The Past is the Past
For trauma survivors there's little need to look into the past for answers. When in a marriage with a trauma survivor the past should be about what is good.
The Present is the Tool and the Launching Point
With my wife Ishwari Devi Dasi, I have learned that whatever it is that has caused her trauma in the past doesn't matter. It doesn't matter anymore.
For myself, I have always been very self critical and able to use my experiences from the past to gradually create a better future.
It is completely different with Ishwari. I have learned to rethink and relearn my own mind. Ishwari wants to hear all of the good things from the past. She doesn't want to be reminded of what caused the trauma.
Ayurvedic Psychology: Trauma Increases Trauma
The Ayurvedic Healing Psychology also treats trauma the same way. Western psychology and therapy largely believes in reliving and rehashing the past. This belief is opposite of Ayurvedic Healing Psychology.
Ayurvedic Healing Psychology says for nervous system disorder due to a lifetime of Vata Dosha ama (toxins) one should avoid the trauma.
One should immerse oneself in Ayurvedic massage oils daily. A large amount of massage oils. One should do things that make them happy.
There's no need to challenge oneself with goals of conquering trauma
One should retire and resign from the trauma designation and engage in the occupation of cozy and warm loving liberties without conflict.
When Forgiveness Becomes Irrelevant
Why forgive a trauma survivor. They didn't do anything wrong. Forgiveness doesn't apply.
Productive Forgetfulness
Instead we should forget the past traumas. We should shed any concept of ownership of them. We need to put on new clothes.
We need to put new light summer clothes on and bathe in the sunshine of simply existing in the human form.
Importance of Family
Family is most important. For trauma survivors the past trauma and its effects on family are best given attention for resolution and positive change.
Shedding the trauma from the past does not necessarily mean shedding the important people in life that share some of the same traumas.
Family Constellations, Reincarnation and Liberation
The Gaudiya Vaishnava philosophy and Hindu philosophy show the deep connection to enlightenment through the immediate family members.
It is said that when one member of the family becomes liberated then all members of the family seven (7) generations forward and back also are liberated.
This family connection is recognized also by indigenous healing methods from New Zealand. The connection between emotions, the nervous system and our path to ultimate liberation is extremely strong and vital.
Ayurveda Recommends Sattva Guna
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